I live like a housewife

Im a teenager who works and does good in school. I always make the right choices. I do a lot of chores around the house, more than normal for girls my age who are going out every night. After I come home from school I'm expected to wash the dishes and start dinner. After I get home from work i need to clean the dinner table and wash the dishes(mind you i didn't even eat at the table.) I get in trouble for not doing chores without being told. The thing is when I am told to do stuff I get it done, but I get in trouble if I just don't start doing it on my own. I cry everyday at school and before I go to bed, I struggle a lot mentally and I can't tell my mom anything because "she had it worse" and "imagine how I feel." My social life is very poor. I go out twice a month if I'm lucky(after a week of convincing), but then the minute I do something wrong she brings up how I can go out but not do some random household chore. All my friends never have to cook or clean anything. My male brother gets babied and doesn't have to lift a finger around the house. I've been getting into screaming matches everyday. I don't want to yell but I'm just so stressed I need to let it out. My mom is also ethnic and all my friends are just American so it's different. I just feel so trapped.