31F | Bay Area, California - Wifey Material
Edit - For those messaging me, thank you but please include your details. I wrote sooo much lol, I can’t reply to just a hello. Also, the location is literally the only non-negotiable please don’t message me asking if I’m willing to move 🙈 thank you. ——
Please read with patience as I have included a lot of details and was super vulnerable lol. My DMs are open, would request you to write a bit about yourself as well :)
About Me
Technically from Hyderabad, but I grew up in Delhi/Mumbai before moving to Cali. I am honest, funny, and friendly and have my fair share of introvert/extrovert days—it really depends on the situation. I mix easily with all age groups and value integrity, honesty, and the ability to stand up for yourself and your family. My friend circle is super important to me, especially as it’s shrinking with age—few, but the best.
I love cooking up a storm and equally enjoy eating out. I do love traveling as well - its becoming awkward to travel with other couples haha. Have the usual Bay Area hobbies - hiking, badminton, dance, going around the Bay, and my favorite of all, chit-chatting and chilling 😂 (seriously, if we can talk for hours, that’s a great sign).
What I’m Looking For
A relationship is an investment, and I believe in prioritizing my partner —because we’re signing up for 50+ years together! If you struggle with open conversations with family or wouldn’t stand up for your partner when needed, we likely won’t match.
That said, I didn’t prfioritize my mental or physical health well in the past (blaming ME + heartbreaks + adulting), but I’m actively working on it and would love a partner who can motivate and join me on this!
My family is extremely open-minded and is likely to only be comfortable with a similar mindset. We have intercaste marriages on our side and value personality/nature over everything else. And very honestly, a lot of my learnings are coming from a couple of really painful breakups (which have been with wonderful people though :)).
The Fine Print
My preferences are mine, right? There is no right or wrong here, I believe.
- Age: 31 - Jan 1994 (open to 29-35)
- Faith: Hindu. I do have my faith and love to visit temples, do puja, etc., during festivals. I don’t know—if you are a complete atheist, would it be a point of friction? This is up for discussion.
- Caste: Brahmin (ONLY for disclosure in case your family requires it; but I am completely open-minded) and do not want to pass this mindset down to the next generation—hope you believe in the same).
- Languages: Hindi, English, Telugu (South Indian languages are a preference first**—more so because it feels like home in a foreign land).
- Job/Salary: AI Product Manager -Good enough (not for a flex, just avoiding awkwardness later—most people I have encountered do not like to make lesser than the girl. **As for my preference - Full time only, but make what you want, just be happy doing it.**)
- Location: Bay Area for now, India is on the plans later—open to discussion on this as it’s an *“us”* decision, but not moving out of the Bay for sure. I’ve tried other locations in the USA, but I feel at home only here. This is probably the only non-negotiable here lol
- Education: Grad school—probably more compatible if you’ve done the same.
- Diet: Changes from time to time. You eat what you want, I honestly don’t care. I also drink occasionally and you can join me :)
- Height: Shortie at 5’2. Would prefer someone *noticeably* taller than me—which is a large majority of you, so you’re probably good. Again, this is based on who I am generally attracted to.
- Kids: Definitely want kids—open to adoption as well, depends on what life throws at us. Two, hypothetically. Given unlimited financial freedom, even more? 😂
🚩Exposing my Red Flags (or Mild Yellow Caution Tape) 🚩
- Scared of pretty much everything —heights, the dark, creepy crawlies, deep water—you name it. I will need a little push for adrenaline-junkie stuff. That said, I’ve done snorkeling, bungee, scuba, and roller coasters (so I try), but I will not jump out of a plane—nope, not happening.** 😂
- I don’t drive currently - Not for lack of trying—I’ve had a couple of big accidents, and the PTSD is real. I’ll keep trying to get back to it, but if this is a deal-breaker, I totally get it.
- I invest deeply in relationships - and in the past, I’ve sometimes gone overboard with emotions and needs. But I’ve worked a lot on understanding differences in needs/wants across genders, and I’m in a much better place now. Basically, I’m an emotional baby from time to time, and I’ll be back to normal soon enough.
- Smoking is a complete NO
🚩 Red Flags - FOR ME 🚩
- No temper/rage issues - I don’t do anger explosions— calm, mature conversations win every time.
- Words do hurt, and I value kindness and empathy in a partner. If you tend to lash out or be condescending, we won’t work.
- Dishonesty is a dealbreaker. Whether it’s big or small, trust is everything to me.
- If you can’t say what’s on your mind and expect me to figure it out, we’ll struggle. I appreciate direct and respectful conversations.
- If “winning” an argument is more important to you than understanding each other, we’re not a match.**
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If you’re honest, emotionally mature, and believe in a we before me/us mentality, let’s chat! 😊