Are you letting family come to the hospital?

I’m not due until May 8th but im trying to come up with a birth plan. I know I want a c section due to other health issues. I’m still trying to decide if I want family to come to the hospital.

When I told my partner I was thinking of just keeping it him and I for the first day he freaked out as if I’m trying to keep his step mom and dad away from our kid (mind you, he doesn’t even like his dad and his dad didn’t bother raising him and is in general, a dead beat so I don’t know where this is coming from) I told him they could come the next day like I was thinking my family could. I just want some time to recover and some time to spend with just him and the babe. I don’t want a revolving door of people to have to entertain. He just seems to have no idea it’s going to be difficult but also that OUR family is more important than his dad and stepmom immediately seeing the babe.

What was your deal? Did you allow people to come visit immediately? Or wait until you were home? I’d like to find a compromise.

(My partner seems to really fear me keeping the babe from his family - I’ve never said anything that would make him believe that. His family is doing a family vacation when the babe will be around a month old and I said no, babe and I will not be doing because I’m not traveling that far with a newborn and I don’t want to risk the babe getting sick being around so many people. He took this as me keeping the babe away from them. I just don’t think he knows that we will not enjoy that vacation and will not be sleeping or going on boat rides - we will be inside with the babe the entire time)