I never feel particularly refreshed afterwards, is it me or them?

The title kind of covers it but I'm just trying to get some feedback on what is going wrong with massages I've gotten in the past. I would think I'm pretty close to the ideal customer; I schedule longer sessions to avoid any need to rush, tip pretty fabulously, am generally healthy and able to endure pretty much anything a MT wants to do, am able to point out specific spots (ankles/feet from old injuries, low back, and shoulders/upper back) that are troublesome as well as areas that are very comfortable and relaxing even with just light touch (scalp, arms, calves) etc.

That's not to say I'm directing anyone, but I'm able to tell them anything they need and am well in tune with my body.

But...

I've gotten maybe a half dozen massages at 4 different places and not a single one has left me feeling refreshed or physically relieved, or really had any positive effects at all that lasted longer than the time it took to get to the door. I never feel sore that day or the next, I never feel like I'm less tense, and while the mental break is nice I could get that from a lot cheaper endeavors.

So.. what am I doing wrong? Is it me? Are my expectations too high? I've tried reserving the deepest massage from the strongest people they had and while yeah I guess they pressed harder it mostly just felt like they were trying to bruise me more than anything haha.

Thoughts?