How tf you guys still horny/dating?

Every now and then I see a post from someone who is in the middle of a bender, a withdrawal, or a mixture of both, and then goes on to talk about a date he/she is gonna have soon. I mean, how is it possible? Where do you find the strength? When I am on a bener or withdrawing, women and ****ing is the last thing I would think about. Just wanna take some benzos and rest. Even now that I'm 28 days sober (was doing a dry Feb, just started a bit later on Feb 10), I feel good and rested overall but still no interest in dating or sex or anything like that. Will spank my monkey a few times a week but even that's becoming a nuisance, I just prefer to watch TV, Youtube or go for a jog. I'm 36, not sure if it has anything to do with it.