Planning to Marry soon, help plz
I need some insight and assistance. I am planning to marry an Algerian man, he is great in every way religiously and for my plans in the future we match well. I am American, so obviously our cultures are very different. He is born Muslim, and I am a revert. I’m just mentioning in case it helps to offer an opinion. I have noticed that when I do something mistakenly that upsets him, he shuts down. He doesn’t scream or get loud, he does the complete opposite which is get quiet and refuse to speak until he feels he can be calm enough to speak about the issue. This can take days until he is ready to bring up the topic. And that means that for days he isn’t as lively in conversation and everything feels awkward and stressful for me because I am just waiting until I know what he is thinking or feeling. I have tried explaining my feelings but he thinks I am trying to make him an enemy. I feel that this happens because of difference in communication styles between how he grew up versus me. I am looking for non judgmental advice, I am dedicated to fixing my communication style to adjust to how he is familiar with, I just need to know what to do different. (Feel free to ask any questions if you need more understanding about something I haven’t mentioned) بارك الله فيك
EDIT: Honestly, I’m disgusted to see how close-minded some of the women are here. I have never spoken to an Algerian man who has done anything less than treat me with respect and be humble in their speech. I know Algerian men are hot headed and that is a different quality for them compared to American men. So, in being more understanding to this quality of them, I want to adapt to how to better communicate to him in a way he can understand and be comfortable with. I was thinking the women here would be kind enough to simply share ideas with me. But instead, the majority of you seem ungrateful for the beautiful qualities of the Algerian men. No one is perfect, but, communication is definitely something that can be adjusted and worked on. It is not a deal breaker. Everyone has their qualities, some good and some not so good. It’s ridiculous that so many of you prefer to run instead of work towards a beautiful relationship, why give up so easily when everything else is so gentle about them? ( obviously not all are the same, but clearly from the way some of you commented, you are convinced otherwise ).