I’m frustrated with the program and sponsor

I only started the program last May and had a 6 week bender from mid-October through November. I am grateful to learn the steps and meet some good people. However, my sponsor is really wearing me down. I have 3 kids (13, 12 and 8). My sponsor makes me feel bad by going to my kid’s games instead of meetings. In addition to AA, I’ve gotten involved in 2 different charities and that is taking up a lot of time, but also helping me stay sober and is greatly rewarding.

He’s calling me out for not doing 90 in 90, but I am still hitting 5-6 meetings a week, including one that I chair. My sponsor keeps telling me it’s not enough. We’ve stalled on the steps. I just don’t look forward to meeting up with him. When I do, he tells me I’m down and depressed because I’m not spiritual enough, not attending enough meetings, and putting my kid’s sports ahead of sobriety, etc. The truth is, I’m down because I just don’t want to meet with him. I understand there’s got to be some tough love in the program, but I also think a sponsor needs to “meet me where I’m at”.

I’m hoping to find a new sponsor. I know my current sponsor will not take it well, but this isn’t going to work for me long term. Does anyone have advice on how to discuss this with him?