So defeated

So there are two things that have me feeling incredibly frustrated.

One, I am trying to get a WFH accomodation for my fibromyalgia (I am also asthmatic and immune compromised as well.) I’m getting huge pushback from my employer, and they want access to my complete medical records, which everything I’ve read says they can’t ask for. I told them as much yesterday, with a printed out page from the EEOC, and they insisted there was a certain circumstance where they can. I asked what that circumstance is and why they would need my additional medical information that is unrelated to the disability (fibromyalgia) that I need accommodation for, and they said they would send me “a screenshot” showing they are allowed to ask that. That was yesterday morning, and they never sent the screenshot. I also had to leave work midway through the day because I was in so much pain.

Today I had an appointment with my primary care. I let her know my fibro pain was getting worse. She asked if I was sure it wasn’t a virus, and I said yes because I wear an n95 mask everywhere and these are my typical fibromyalgia symptoms, I’m just in a particularly bad flare. She told me to “be careful” with the n95 mask because once my immune system gets exposed to viruses again, I will get sicker. She said this is why there was an uptick in RSV “after” Covid. I tried to explain from my personal experience I used to be hospitalized for respiratory illness a lot due to my asthma, and I haven’t had to be hospitalized since I started masking. She was very dismissive and didn’t seem to like that I pushed back on her medical advice and was rude for the rest of the appointment. I immediately posted in my local still coviding group asking for a recommendation for a new primary care recommendation.

Anyway. I’m just so tired and exhausted and in pain every day from my condition, I’m tired of battling my employer, between the commute and the mental toll of all this it just makes my pain worse every day, I don’t know what to do😭