Fellow Subs, advice needed.

Hello everyone, I am new to the BDSM kink, and have found myself with what I’m perceiving as a great Daddy Dom, there’s just a few things that I don’t quite understand in any input is greatly appreciated.

Firstly, we’ve been talking for a little over a month and we have been physical. We haven’t actually had a full session yet, but he’s very adamant about not sharing his phone number with me. I’ve already submitted enough to relinquish my house key to him, but I’ve never even been invited to his house although the first time we were together, he did ask me where I would like it to be my house or his house and when I did say his house, he then changed it,and anything we’ve done has been at my house.

Secondly, within the first three weeks or so of us talking, he said in conversation that “ you deserve a collar” he then proceeded to tell me to go through and look at collar that I liked. Then, when we had our first actual Dom sub intimate scene. He pulls out a collar and then tells me that “ it’s only temporary and IF we wanted things to continue that I would get a different one”. I expressed my concern verbally afterwards how it was confusing to me when he told me I deserved a collar and then took it back and said that he doesn’t even remember the conversation where he had said that I deserved one and because it’s all on Snapchat I can’t pull it back up. I also found out or saw where he had sent me a video of him and another sub, and she was wearing the exact same collar that he had put on me.

Thirdly, if I express the concern or thought where I want things to be he’ll immediately jump to the position of, “well let’s just stop”, and that honestly really hurts me when he says that like it really does hurt and I hear it almost weekly. To me it’s like if we’re in the middle of a session and I’m telling you green I need more and you just stop. It’s very confusing.

Can any of you all give me any input? Maybe this is just the way the dynamic is and because I’m unfamiliar with it or any kind of relationship I’m just not navigating it correctly or with the right point of view, any help is greatly appreciated. I hope you all have the most wonderful day.❤️