27M in 2-Year Relationship with 24F: Struggling to Balance Family Pressure and Her Hesitance to Tell Her Parents

I’ve been in a relationship with my friend’s sister for almost 2 years. Initially, her brother was aware and okay with it. A few months ago, I had to tell my parents because they were searching for a match for me. It took me 4 months to convince them to accept our relationship, but they finally did. However, they’ve given me a deadline to get her parents involved, which just ended.

My partner is very hesitant to tell her parents. She considered doing it before the deadline but backed out at the last moment. Recently, I had to return to my hometown because my dad is unwell and was diagnosed with something life-threatening. He is pressing me to move forward with involving both families soon. He’s given me another deadline, only two days away, which is adding to the stress.

Whenever I bring up the topic with her, it causes fights. She says she needs space and isn’t ready to marry until the end of 2026. I respect her choice, but the situation with my dad makes this incredibly difficult. He believes involving her parents would mentally strengthen him.

Her brother and mom already approve of our relationship, but her dad doesn’t know yet. I’m caught between wanting to respect her choice and dealing with my parents’ expectations.

TL;DR: I (27M) am in a 2-year relationship with my partner (24F). My parents now support us after months of convincing, but my dad’s serious health issues and his desire to finalize our marriage plans are putting pressure on me to involve her parents. She is hesitant to tell them and wants to wait until 2026 to marry. This is causing stress, fights, and a rift between us. How do I handle this situation and balance both sides?