If you were a princess and your country was invaded by an enemy emperor, would you rather marry him or kill yourself?

So basically, this is the only sub where I can ask this question. I've been thinking about this question for a long time...after seeing a lot of ois and oi themed media where the female lead has to choose between the two.

I'm from India, and we have a very famous tale about a queen called Padmini, who had an enemy emperor fell in love with her, tried to pursue her despite her being married, and destroyed her country and husband after being refused. As he came to take her, she jumped into a fire with all the other girls in the castle and killed herself. (I'm not good with history so this isn't nuanced, but you can look up the full story in the Google). It's a story of a girl choosing her honour over her life. However, it's also true that their bloodline perished there with them.

Then we have Hurrem, one of the most prominent female leads from Magnificent century, who had a similar story but made a different choice. She married the same guy who set her home in flames after falling in love with him. Originally, I absolutely loathed her, but as I thought it over, I realised this may not have been as black and white as it seemed. Hurrem, unlike Padmini, hadn't been married when she was dragged into the harem, and also she ultimately had the sultan's heirs, and had ruled the harem and later, the country itself. She ultimately took over the enemy's domein from the inside—which couldn't have been an easy job considering there were crap ton of other concubines in the harem and lots of other children of the sultan. It definitely took more efforts than death, although she had to sleep with the person who has led a genocide in her land and most of her children died in the fight for throne. Again, there might be flaws in the story because I'm not good with history, I'm just saying the stuff I saw across the internet.

Now these are real life examples, we have plenty of such examples in ois as well. We often see a female lead fall in love with the same person who had killed her loved ones over the time—and I honestly can't really stand it. I understand some people like this troupe and I'm not at all criticizing them, I'm just stating my own tastes.

I also saw the female lead of Eunuch's consort rules the world staing a different opinion entirely. She said if the emperor were to seperate her from the ML and force her into the harem, she'd simply slow poison the emperor, trick him into believing she slept with him, adopt a child and rule the country as empress doweger as the emperor died. This is also an option I guess.

So tell me, what would be your choice?