Opinion on women writing stories about or featuring gay men?

Hey! Thanks again for all your insights on the previous opinion about today's gay media. Back with another opinion discussion. This time it's about women writing stories about gay men. A lot of BL and Yaoi is written by women, but what are some pitfalls? What are the stereotypes that need to stop? What can women do to write better stories about gay men?

Other questions are if someone is writing about gay stories what is the best type of research? Personally we've heard some great stories about how gay men either co-write, beta-read or edit media written by women. Also what fetishization needs to stop in media that straight women tend to focus on? All opinions are welcomed. Also note that this will be a published article so we will credit you for your answers. Answers can be as long as you'd like as well.