keep manifesting the opposite of what i want

I had two SPs and just found out one has a girlfriend and the other one isn’t reaching out to me or showing any interest. I know that I want to have an interesting satisfying love life but my self concept keeps expecting that nothing will work out for me and that I’m not good enough to get/ keep the type of person I find attractive - I’m exhausted and want to give up on manifesting completely as I feel like I’m just hurting myself by hanging on to the idea of people and an interesting love life, but have successfully manifested other things in the past. I don’t know what to do, I still have an underlying feeling that things will work out better than I could have expected but my 3D seems to be showing that I’m actively manifesting the opposite. What do I do?