Putting shoes on the bed is Not Okay

Even if she's annoying, Jacqui is right that putting shoes on the bed is gross. I'm American and even I leave my shoes by the door when I come into my apartment (but I live in a city and the streets are dirty). Of course, the WAY she asked him to stop doing that was condescending and abrasive. But I had to empathize with her. Part of living with another person means sharing in keeping up the living space--it creates negative feelings when one person (usually the woman) is constantly cleaning up after the other person. Sure, if you're a trad wife and taking care of your husband and children is your dream life, go for it. But if you both work full time you both have to share in the domestic work. When women end up doing more, it creates unbalance and misery (and divorces). Women are forced to be nags ("why won't you do the dishes?" etc.), while men get annoyed at being told what to do. It's a toxic cycle.