example messages ruin the bot

ive seen multiple people complain about this but never anyone actually give help.

so basically after ive added an example message just to show the formatting of the messages, how the bot talks, etc. i start a new chat right. and instead of replying to the greeting message/what ive sent, the bot immediately replies to the example messages ive made, even if i dont add {{user}} in it... what do i do???

for example, i add a message where the bot asks a question as the dialogue. after i start chatting, the bot goes "answer my question" — referring to the one in the example messages.