Is this the right call?
My daughter went to a short winter camp this last weekend with food poisoning. (We both had the same symptoms at the same exact time, typical to food poisoning)
Obviously neither of us knew we had food poisoning before she went to camp, but the first night it hit her like a bus. She told her leadership she threw up all night when everyone was up the next morning but I never received a phone call from the SM or his wife (our committee chair/treasurer)
Should I have received a phone call first thing in the morning?
Here's the long version of the story:
My daughter started throwing up when it got dark, she woke up the SM wife and let her know and the wife had her go back to her tent to try to get some sleep.(Our SM was being a camp dad for his son's troop at the same camp but obviously in another campsite)
My daughter ended up throwing up out her tent the rest of the night and didn't intentionally wake the wife again. (We already talked about how she needed to advocate for herself after she kept throwing up and how her choice led to a very hard night.)
First thing in the morning my teen told the SMs wife that she threw up all night, and the wife admitted to hearing her throw up and cry. (Nothing came of this conversation)
They went to breakfast where my teen told her again she still didn't feel good and the wife had her eat biscuits and drink apple juice.
At this point in time, I am just waking up because I had also been throwing up all night, sleeping on the bathroom floor and hadn't thought to look at my phone. During the early hours of the morning she had texted me that she had been throwing up all night, but when I tried to call her immediately after seeing the message it went straight to voicemail. Likely a dead phone.
I texted the wife to let her know my daughter probably had food poisoning like me and asked if she could call me. The wife tells me it's probably not food poisoning and she looks fine. She tells me she made her eat and she'll call me if it continues. I text her I've also had the same symptoms and I'd like to bring her home, she continues to tell me that she's okay and she'll make sure to call if my daughter keeps feeling bad.
At that point my husband called her and told her that he was going to pick her up regardless, and she spent the rest of the weekend recoopering.
Am I crazy for thinking that was the wrong way to handle this situation as the parent leader? What if she had been contagious with a stomach bug? What if she was so dehydrated she had passed out? But I was mostly upset that there was no call from our leadership to let us know she had been throwing up all night. Is that our of line?
It absolutely eroded all my trust and faith in our leadership. I'm a parent leader, and I don't think that asking the other parent leaders will be helpful as most of them generally disagree or dislike our SM and Committee Chair.
Please tell me if I'm being dramatic or if I am correct in thinking this is a serious issue that needs to be addressed within my troop.
-signed a concerned mama bear & parent leader
*Edit to add
- My daughter's phone died part way through the night before she thought it was bad enough to actually call me. She is sometimes too considerate and didn't want to "bother" me. Nor did she want To "be a burden" on her friends or the parents. We did have a discussion about self advocacy & taking up space and what that looks like. Hard lesson learned on her and our part. As a mom, truly devastating to hear her say those things.
- Yes there was a health officer onsite.
- She is the SPL but she's only 13. We are a young troop and our prior SPL is aging out soon and no longer attends campouts.