Do all borderlines smear?

In your experience was your ex /bpd partner whispering untruths in the ears of people you essentially would expect a partner to sing your praises to? He told his boss, work friends and one or 2 family members (most have cut him off) that I was an instigater of trouble. A stalker. A sex mad needy person. A liar. A money thief.

I am the opposite of these claims!