AITAH for only being able to finish myself after having sex with bf

I Akira (21 F) can’t finish whilst having sex with bf Harry (27 M). I've always known what I want, especially when it comes to my body and my pleasure. But with Harry, my boyfriend of two years, there's this one wall we can't seem to get past. He's 27, confident, and so sure of himself, except when it comes to one thing: oral sex. He thinks it's not "manly" to go down on me, and it drives me up the wall.

Every time we're intimate, I find myself relying on my own touch or the mechanics of sex to get there. It's not that he doesn't try to please me in other ways, but there's this huge part of intimacy missing, like a piece of the puzzle that doesn't fit.

I've brought it up, oh, how many times? Each time, I hope to chip away at his old-school views, but he just shakes his head, reiterating that it's not something a man should do. It's so upsetting, really, because I feel like there's this barrier between us, this act of vulnerability and trust that he won't share with me.

But I've learned to adapt. I've spent nights exploring my own body, discovering what makes me feel good . There's a power in that, in knowing myself so deeply that I can bring myself to the edge without him. It's not ideal, but it's where I'm at.

I don’t even look forward to having sex with him anymore, the thought of it doesn’t even excite me and with my very high sexy drive it’s a huge issue, can anyone point me in the direction of men who actually know how to please a woman?