AITAH for calling my friend a snitch.

So me white passing biracial female is friends with a white low income friend. We both have similar interests and hopes. And so when she asked me to join her nonprofit i was ecstatic. I knew that this was gonna be a grate thing for me to be apart of. We go on and things are grate, until i open slack to see that she had partnered with a very abusive organization lead. Let’s call him f. So i warn her about f. He’s very racist, sexist, and not a grate person. I say that i wish that she would have consulted me before adding him on but that it was okay. I go to sleep thinking that everything was okay. But then i get a slack message from her, the best friends that is. She says that f is saying that he doesn’t want me in the org and that she understands because i wasn’t really quite like them. I didn’t know what they meant but wanted to stay out of it seeing as it was drama. And i was loyal to this girl, but that doesn’t mean that i have to put up with this type of bs. A few hours later i get added to a group chat on slack, and there’s just to messages. Of her telling all my personal business and things i have done to him. I would understand if it was just things that she didn’t like about my work ethic and such. But know it was crimes that i had been framed for, the fact i didn’t have much money, and all of my trauma. Then stated that we needed to hash it out, and that i was being babyish. I at this point was done with this drama a long tie ago and said that i didn’t have any issue just to consult me next time before adding someone please. I messaged her calling her out for being a snitch and she reply with only black people use that launguage and i need to be more professional. I then had to go through this whole thing with them, during which i said over and over that there was know issue. Finally she just tells me to cry a little and show some emotion. And until i can do that i would be an intern. I stated that I’m so sorry that I’m logical and don’t feel like crying. She called me then just to scream and rant about her own problems. I just said look, I ain’t finna change for you. I’m not going to cry and I’m not sorry. After words she said i would be doing 20 hours a week for her. Doing everything from peoples homework, to flyers to cleaning the toilets out of the rent out office. I said fine whatever, but now am not feeling any sense of loyalty towards her at all. Is this okay, or does she have a point. I really don’t know what to do from hear so any advice would be welcome. Weather it be disagreement with my choices or not. Thanks in advance.